Just like it takes a village to raise a child, a village comes in handy when caring for an aging loved one too. However, get different personalities and points of view together and you are bound to have issues. The key is how you stay connected and work through the issues, while keeping your loved one’s quality of life in mind, that is the key.
Agree to disagree: There will be times during the caregiving journey when not everyone in your family or extended circle of care will be able to agree. As head or even just a small participating caregiver you need to recognize that you may win some and you may lose some. This is truly the first step in having good, open communication.
Throw out your old expectations: As the oldest member of the family it is easy to fall into or assume the role of leader and decision maker, but if baby brother has a nursing degree perhaps he would be better at making Mom’s healthcare decisions. It is important to assign appropriate roles and duties, based on current strengths and not on birth order.
Share everything: One of the most important things is to share all of the information with everyone. Otherwise you can run the risk of people feeling left out. An easy way to accomplish this is to use e-mail so that the same written information is given to each family member at the same time. This also gives you a written record of what happened at Mom’s doctor appointments etc…
Check-in consistently: Consistent communication is key! If you only communicate during times of crisis it will result in miscommunication and discord during an already stressful time. Instead make it a habit to communicate on a regular basis and to revisit your loved one’s care plan every 3 months, setting a specific date and time to meet in advance.
Watch your promises and say when: It is very easy to over promise, especially when it comes to caregiving. Many a caregiver has promised “never to put Mom in a home” or that they “will visit every day.” The truth of the matter is that sometimes these promises cannot be kept. Perhaps Mom needs more medical care or that visiting daily is hard when you are working fulltime and raising four kids. We can’t know what will happen in the future for ourselves or our loved ones. Remember you are doing your best, but it is more important to be a caregiver who knows when to say when than to keep a promise that could jeopardize the health and well being of yourself or your love one.
By working together you strengthen the care that your loved one receives and ensure that they are treated with dignity and respect, while maintaining the highest quality of life possible.
My father has been here only a little over 2 months. The positive change in him has been DRAMATIC! I would HIGHLY recommend Azura........ I would give it 10 stars if they allowed it! This is the premier facility for any family member with cognitive issues! They do treat residents like family, believe it!
Review posted by Stephen Diedrich
The staff at Oak Creek are all fabulous! It takes special people to care for our loved ones. If has been a trying year for all and the staff at oak creek get a shout out for their kindness and compassion they give to my mom and the others. They have all gone above and beyond to make things seem as normal as possible for my mom! All of the staff have been so helpful and kind! They are all fabulous!!
Review posted by Mary Kubacki
"We want to thank you for the loving special care you took of our mother, Diane. It was truly mom's home and you all became part of our family. Everything was home for her....from the beautiful rooms, large sunny windows all around, good food made with love, fun and personal activities from people who really loved our mom. We would highly recommend your facility to anyone. The staff from the director, to the doctor, to the nurse, to the caregivers and the maintenance man were all extremely helpful, caring, loving and professional. There are not enough words to say how much we appreciate all of you. Your exceptional care, kindness, and love were beyond anything we could have imagined. You were part of our family, and we will miss you." - Gail Sommers and Deborah Guse
Review posted by Gail Sommers & Deborah Guse
Just moved my sister-in-law to Azura Stoughton on February 12th. I feel like I’ve found a little piece of dementia heaven. The staff has gone way beyond my expectations to meet her needs and take time to know her. Anyone who has dementia deserves the TLC they receive at Azura. I’m so impressed.
Review posted by Gail Aaroen
Thank you to the Azura Memory Care team, Sheboygan location for the amazing, loving care they provided my dad. They truly loved and cared for my dad as if he was their own. It is such a warm, loving, family environment I only wish we would have moved my dad there years earlier!
Review posted by Patti Bunch
Review posted by Ron Paxson
I have enjoyed working with patients at Azura Care as a Physical Therapist Assistant. The staff has been very helpful in sharing important information about the patients to make their therapy sessions as productive as possible. They are open to learning techniques to help keep patients safe and improve their ability to perform daily tasks with less assistance. Their interactions with patients show caring and compassion with a focus on the needs of each individual to enjoy the best quality of life possible.
Review posted by Barb Eisenberg
The journey of caregiving for my Aunt started over 4 years ago. It has been a very long difficult journey. It is hard to watch and frustrating to watch a loved one decline, as well as for them to live the decline. My Aunt found her final peace at Azura Memory Care in Sheboygan. It was not only her peace but mine as well. I no longer had to worry about her care as I could see that she was loved by her Azura family. She passed away on June 21 and they knew how important that it was for me to be there, but I also found peace that if I was not there, she was with family that loved her. No words can express the appreciation for the care, compassion and love that they have for all their residents. God has opened many doors through my journey and the doors at Azura were truly a gift from God. This family made a difference in a long journey. I will always have them in my thoughts and prayers. They are where and doing what they are meant to do!